So often I have clients come to me saying something like: “Can you coach her so she can fit in here?” “I’m unhappy at work and I don’t know how to fix it.” “I got feedback from my boss and I want to fix it.” There is nothing to “fix”! None of us are broken. So often we compare ourselves to some other standard believing it is how we should be. Or we want someone else to “improve”. Whether it is in their relationship with others, the work they do, their behaviors, or even just the words they use. I… read more →
I recently went to meet one of my son’s teachers. He was not doing well in this particular class… which was unusual for him. I scheduled a face-to-face meeting and went in ready for battle. My head had been filled with all of his stories about how she “hated” him and how bad her teaching was and how she humiliated him in front of the entire class, etc., etc… Well, I saw her as the enemy before I even met her! So you can imagine my expectation of the discussion was going to be difficult and unpleasant… I could feel my… read more →
If you know the story of the Good Samaritan, you may think it would be hard to imagine any good deeds like that happening these days… It seems we live in a very self-centered, instant gratification world. Well, I have to tell you what happened to me recently, helped me open up and remember there are so many kind, generous, loving people out there that we have forgotten about… I was up early on a Saturday and heading downtown to a charity event. On the way, I had a flat tire but was able to get to the dealer. I… read more →