So often I have clients come to me saying something like: “Can you coach her so she can fit in here?” “I’m unhappy at work and I don’t know how to fix it.” “I got feedback from my boss and I want to fix it.” There is nothing to “fix”! None of us are broken. So often we compare ourselves to some other standard believing it is how we should be. Or we want someone else to “improve”. Whether it is in their relationship with others, the work they do, their behaviors, or even just the words they use. I… read more →
Recently there has been much talk about Microsoft CEO, Satya Nadella’s comments about women and raises. He has apologized profusely for “projecting” his experience on more than half the population… good for him! As the dialogue has unfolded, it reminded me of a lesson I learned at the first company I joined after college… I graduated with an engineering degree from a highly respected college (Lafayette). However, it was a recession and it was before the days of internships so I did not have “relevant” experience. I was fortunate to be offered an entry-level job at $5.00/hr. That’s right, engineering… read more →
I was asked recently how many bad bosses have I had. Only one comes to mind quickly over a 25 year career! However, as I reflected more on what was so “bad”about him, I realized what he was pushing me to do was actually beneficial for me but I could not see it at the time. What my boss (in Germany at the time) wanted me to do was spend a little more time connecting with others in the office. To me, he wanted me to “waste” my time socializing when I was there to do a “job”. To him, he was… read more →