So often I have clients come to me saying something like: “Can you coach her so she can fit in here?” “I’m unhappy at work and I don’t know how to fix it.” “I got feedback from my boss and I want to fix it.” There is nothing to “fix”! None of us are broken. So often we compare ourselves to some other standard believing it is how we should be. Or we want someone else to “improve”. Whether it is in their relationship with others, the work they do, their behaviors, or even just the words they use. I… read more →
Recently there has been much talk about Microsoft CEO, Satya Nadella’s comments about women and raises. He has apologized profusely for “projecting” his experience on more than half the population… good for him! As the dialogue has unfolded, it reminded me of a lesson I learned at the first company I joined after college… I graduated with an engineering degree from a highly respected college (Lafayette). However, it was a recession and it was before the days of internships so I did not have “relevant” experience. I was fortunate to be offered an entry-level job at $5.00/hr. That’s right, engineering… read more →
I recently went to meet one of my son’s teachers. He was not doing well in this particular class… which was unusual for him. I scheduled a face-to-face meeting and went in ready for battle. My head had been filled with all of his stories about how she “hated” him and how bad her teaching was and how she humiliated him in front of the entire class, etc., etc… Well, I saw her as the enemy before I even met her! So you can imagine my expectation of the discussion was going to be difficult and unpleasant… I could feel my… read more →